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Your Colleague is bad mouthing you- What to do?

While everyone enjoys being a team player and be popular with colleagues, you cannot please everyone. There will be a few you are always logger-heads with, and you chose to ignore these minor snubs and acts of thoughtlessness. But what do you do when you find out your colleague is bad mouthing you?

Not only is badmouthing insulting and leads to sour relationships, in many companies, the HR considers this a reason good enough to fire someone. Unfortunately, there are backstabbers at all workplaces who would rather talk behind-the-back instead of confronting. And while you are tempted to retaliate in a similar way, there are smarter and tactful methods of handling the situation:

Ignore it

Remember, things said behind your back should mean nothing to you. On the contrary, it shows the speaker in poor light — as compared to you. At times, ignoring may be the best way to deal with your colleague bad mouthing you.

But do give it a thought if…

There’s a very thin line between competition and sabotage. If you both have similar positions, your professional goals would also be in line with each other. The badmouthing could be a way of venting out anger for a promotion that you got, but he/she didn’t. Such negative feelings are often temporary. Think about if this is the first time your colleague has reacted this way. Observe if the behaviour persists before deciding on the next course of action.

Turn over a new leaf

Often, the feeling of dislike in the workplace is mutual. However, instead of letting things take a turn for the worse, you can turn over a new leaf and try being a tad nicer to the colleague. A simple “Good morning” or “Hello” with a smile is a good way to start. Try striking a conversation with them. These little things go a long way and will help put in more positive energy around the workplace too. You may see your co-worker reciprocating — but do not be gullible. Give it a little time to see if the reciprocation is genuine or merely a way of distracting you.

Alleviate envy

If it is a recent development that led to this reaction from your colleague, you can try mitigating envy. For instance, if you had taken a recent holiday, share a few bad experiences that you had. Talk about struggling with work issues and failures instead of just bragging about your successes. Doing so helps change the way you are perceived.

Confrontation

But what do you do when you find out your colleague is bad mouthing you regularly? Listen to your instincts, and if you feel it is time for confrontation or if the water’s going above the head, it’s time to take it one-on-one. In particular, if the badmouthing is accompanied by actions that may sabotage your career, you should not wait. Talk to your colleague or coworker in a constructive manner. Tell them you know about what’s being said behind your back. More often than not, your co-worker would be embarrassed and would put a stop to it.

If not, then it’s time to gather evidence and launch an official complaint with your HR and the boss. Before you do so, make sure you have-

  • A group of coworkers who are supporting you and are aware of the situation
  • Gather evidence before confronting your colleague to ensure you can prove that you are not in the wrong. These are measures to safeguard yourself against false accusations
  • Change your password, keep sensitive documents locked, etc. You never know how an individual may react after an official complaint

Though badmouthing in the workplace should always be taken seriously. Sometimes, you may have to ignore the personal drama, and in other cases, the issue might require serious and immediate intervention. Either way, it is important not to let such matters affect your work productivity.

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